When I describe certain techniques in our self defense class I invariably get what I call the EWW factor. What I call the EWW factor is the expression I get every time I instruct someone in the group to shatter a knee or break a finger.

First the idea crosses the person’s mind, then the actuality sinks in, “I should do what?” Then the reaction of denial, “I can’t possibly do that to another person, after all I’m civilized” Here is where the mistake is being made. We somehow think that the person who wants to commit bodily harm is actually thinking of our well being . We default to our “nice” way of being because it’s all we know and practice often. I want to dispel that myth for you right now. Someone who is attacking you and wants to harm you or your loved ones deserves no kind of consideration. There are no rules when it comes to your defense.What you need to do is devastate that person immediately without hesitation. I can assure that you are being viewed as a resource: either you have money, valuables, or even your person is the target of the attacker. The person attacking you has stripped you of any vestige of humanity and views you as less than what you are. It is your job to correct that impression and to do so with the utmost ferocity.

When I say grab a finger and break it, or take an elbow and smash it into a face. What I am saying to you is that you need to do whatever it takes so you go home safe, sound and alive. If I emphasize a technique that shatters a knee, it’s so that person can no longer follow you to harm you.

Each Wednesday evening, we break through the “EWW” Factor as I demonstrate techniques and then have them done on me, not delicately, but hard and with intention. It’s great to see the realization dawn on a person’s face when they realize they can do a technique that doesn’t require strength, just a knowledge of bio-mechanics. If we do them often enough, the conditioning of “niceness” that we have can be overridden. We can be devastating and explosive if and when the need arises. Self Defense is 90% awareness and 10% technique. That being said, the 10% needs to be effective, powerful, and practical.